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2.16: For the Love of Flying Trapeze (Discussion)

November 16, 2015

I shared the story For the Love of Flying Trapeze in the previous episode of the show. This week, I'm following up with my analysis of what I learned and what conclusions could be drawn from the events. I hit on some really key points as well. 

Namely, I talk about long distance relationships and what conditions need to be true in order for them to succeed. I explain how to tell if someone is flirting with you or if they are just being friendly, and whether the distinction is important to make (spoiler: it's not that important!). I also bring up once again why it is important to be clear with your intentions. In other words, if you want to go out on a date, don't simply ask your crush to "hang out" with you. That said, I discuss how just hanging out could actually be a good way to get into a relationship as well. 

I also talk about the so-called "Friend Zone," and why, instead of dreading it, you should celebrate it! I know it's not something you would expect a "Nice Guy" to tell you to do... but trust me on this one. There are plenty of benefits about being in the "Friend Zone" that you can use to your advantage. 

At the top of the show, I talk about the biological differences between men and women and how these differences led to the development of the "gender laws" we live by today. I try to highlight the difference between the behaviors that stem directly or indirectly from our different biology (ex. women being more sexually selective than men, and men being more competitive than women), and the ideas that we develop based on our socialization, independent of our biological nature (ex. women must be caretakers, men must be soldiers). 


MATE: Become The Man Women Want by Tucker Max and Geoffrey Miller - Mating Grounds --