In the previous episode, I had a conversation with my guest Val, a bisexual woman, who talked about asking out both men and women. Continuing off of that, I bring up the major points we touched on in the conversation and shed a little more light on them.
People often say that it is dangerous or uncomfortable for women to approach men and ask them on dates because men could react unpredictably. They could get upset. They might see you has a slut or call you demeaning names. They might talk about you behind your back, or even physically assault you. I definitely agree with all of these points, but when we say this, it seems as though the assumption is that men never experience the same asking out women. But this couldn't be any more false.
People (both men and women) are unpredictable, so there is really no telling what any one person will do when they are approached for a date. I want there to be an easier and better solution to this problem, but I don't know that there is one; other than just teaching people not to conform to these ideas about gender, and not to be assholes to each other.
I also talk about what happens when a person is so infatuated by their crush that they can't even speak to them, even when on a date. Spoiler: the relationship is probably not going to work out.
At the top of the show, I also talk about the MTV Video Music Awards and Miley Cyrus. She has gotten a lot of flack from the media and feminists about how she performs her identity. I play devil's advocate and point out the ways Miley may be even more a feminist for doing what she does.
- Miley Cyrus - Wikipedia - http://bit.ly/1KQm76e
- September 20, 2015