In this episode, I critique the romantic comedy Crazy, Stupid, Love. The film drew a significant audience due to its all-star cast including Steve Carell, Ryan Gosling, Emma Stone, Julianne Moore, and Kevin Bacon. And though it is hilariously funny, it sends some troubling messages about masculinity and dating.
I also discuss the problem of sexist dating advice that is often offered to men. Female dating coaches especially tell men to simply "be confident" or "interesting" or "unique" when they approach women. But women never feel the pressure that comes from the approach. Until women are socially approved to approach men, they have to acknowledge the privilege they gain from our patriarchal society.
Crazy, Stupid, Love illustrates some of the problems that arise from this pressure on men to be initiators. Teenage boy are especially guilty of nagging girls to the point of harassment because they are taught to "never give up." Especially when it comes to the idea of a "soulmate." The moral of the movie could be summed up as "never give up on your soulmate," but there are so many issues with this line of thinking.
Lastly, I talk about what it means for a guy to be a "loser." Essentially, a loser is a guy who lacks social adeptness. Once again, to be an introverted man is an oxymoron in our culture. And here is just one more piece of popular media that reinforces the idea.
What is your take on the film? Have you ever used an over-the-top method to try to win over a crush? Did it work? Let me know in the comments below.
- May 25, 2015