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2.22: Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer

Happy Holidays! For this very special, season finale episode of Romeo And... I give you my review of Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer, the 1964 classic based on the ever popular Christmas song of the same name. The film has been a Christmas tradition in my family for several years, and was one of my first explorations into the world of sex discrimination. 

I discuss how differently discrimination was addressed 50 years ago, and the way these sex differences were regarded. How we addressed discrimination then paints a very distinct (and often hilarious) picture of the way we look at these same issues today. Unfortunately, though we enjoy much more equality nowadays, we are still dealing with the same issues of discrimination that we dealt with back then. 

At the top of the show, I also give a reminder that the holiday season is not happy and joyous for everyone. Be mindful about how you engage with others. It doesn't mean you're not allowed to be joyous yourself, but recognize that resentment and sadness are natural reactions to tough times. Sometimes people want to endure these feelings without others insisting they need to cheer up. 

That said, have a wonderful New Year! And I hope you are all back in February for season 3 of Romeo And...! 

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2.21: My Spiritual Awakening (Discussion)

Continuing from the previous episode of the show, I discuss the story My Spiritual Awakening. Though the story focuses a lot on how I came to become a Unitarian Universalist, I focus my discussion on my experience with my crush, Yolanda. 

I discuss how I handled the situation in general (what I did well, what I should not have done), how men are shamed for feeling sexual desire, how we teach men that being chauvinist is acceptable, and that women do not all have the same interests simply because they are women. 

At the top of the show, I talk more about "patriarchy." What it is, and how it came to be. Ultimately, it comes down to how we develop a preference or interest in anything. We are brought up a certain way, which leads us to develop a certain fondness and nostalgia for things from our childhood. Patriarchy does not significantly benefit any group of people, and yet, we don't like the idea of changing it because it is all we've ever known. 

What is your opinion on patriarchy? What do you feel the term refers to, and how does it manifest in the world we live in? Send me your thoughts! 

2.20: My Spiritual Awakening

Sharing the story "My Spiritual Awakening" about going to college, finding religion, and finding myself. Also, about not finding love, of course. Essentially my origin story of converting to Unitarian Universalism. 

Not only is this the last story I will be sharing on the podcast before season 3, it will likely be the last long-form story I will be doing on the show. Going forward, I will most likely revert back to sharing shorter stories. Additionally, I will be focused more on sharing stories from guests and listeners like you, so be sure to send your stories in to me! 

At the top of the show, I talk about the differences between complimenting people as a man versus as a woman. Men are way more likely to be seen as potential sexual predators, so they have to be more careful about how they approach people. It sucks that men are automatically seen as potentially threatening, but women (as the primary targets of sexual violence) have to be careful about how they interact with men they don't know. 

As a guy, it's important to recognize that women have to view you as potentially threatening to protect themselves. If you are unwilling to adjust your behavior to indicate that you are non-threatening, you refuse to consider the realities of the world we live in, and you can't be upset if women are less likely to trust you. 

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2.19: Gladiator

This week, I reviewed the 2000 instant classic Gladiator by Ridley Scott. When I chose the movie, I figured there would be a whole lot I could talk about in regards to gender representation. I was mistaken. To my surprise, the film was so good, that I couldn't come up with a whole lot to criticize it about. 

And instead of trying to pull the film apart anyway, just because I can, I decided to call a spade a spade, to demonstrate that not every piece of media needs to be torn apart. Gladiator is an example of a movie that doesn't necessarily do everything "right," but does what it does without falling into tired conventions and stereotypes just to pad the plot. 

If you came for a biting feminist critique of Gladiator, you won't find it here. 

At the top of the show, I discuss mental illness. Again. But this time, I focus specifically on men. Men are still demonized, criticized, and humiliated for wanting emotional support. As a result, we either develop a thick skin, or develop a negative self-image. Generally we do both. But we don't talk about men's mental health or self-image like we do for women. And so, men continue thinking that they are inadequate or weak, which can lead to resentment, anger, violence, depression, and often suicide. 

Instead of continuing to claim that there is "something wrong with men," we need to start recognizing how we as a society have failed them, and continue to fail them. Only then can we begin to heal. 

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