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2.13: Stony Brook University Center for the Study of Men and Masculinities

I took a visit to the Stony Brook University Center for the Study of Men and Masculinities after reading an article about their new masters program in "Masculinities Studies." At first, I was just confused about why they insisted on making "masculinities" plural all the time, but I figured I could learn a lot from people who study men professionally. 

I did end up learning a whole lot in just the few hours I was there, including how much biology informs our perceptions of gender, why gender inequality exists in most cultures, and of course, what the difference is between "masculinity" and "masculinities." 

At the top of the show, I talk about the book The Humor Code by Peter McGraw and Joel Warner. I was intrigued by the authors' theory on "the benign violation," and what it could tell us about the difference between male and female comedians. Why are there more male than female comedians? Are women just not as funny as men? 

Let me know your thoughts about humor in the comments below! Why do you think men are more likely to be comedians? 

Also, don't forget to tweet me @Street_Saint and let me know something you liked or a comment you had about this particular episode! #RomeoAnd 


Proof That Men Are Not Funnier Than Women - Slate - 

The Humor Code by Peter McGraw and Joel Warner - Amazon - 

A Brief Introduction to the Benign Violation Theory of Humor - Peter McGraw - 

Peter McGraw: What Makes Things Funny - TEDxBoulder - 

A Master’s Degree in ... Masculinity? - New York Times - 

Stony Brook University Center for the Study of Men and Masculinities - Stony Brook University - 

Dr. Michael Kimmel - Official Website - 

Michael Kimmel: Why Gender Equality is Good For Everyone, Men Included - TED - 

Michael Kimmel Author Page - Amazon - 

Sex and Temperment: In Three Primative Societies by Margaret Mead - Amazon - 

Raewyn Connell - Official Website - 

2.12: Be Careful What You Wish For, Lest it be Tula (Discussion)

I look back at the story from last week, Be Careful What You Wish For, Lest it be Tula, and discuss what was learned from it. I cover a lot of topics in this episode; and I think there are a lot of great highlights for men as well as women. 

The broader concepts I talk about are race and interracial dating, how anxiety brings us to find excuses for our behavior, how we sometimes ignore certain facts about our lives simply because they don't seem fair, and how Tula and I both fell short in pursuing the relationship. I definitely recommend checking out this episode because I hit on a lot of great insights. 

At the top of the show, I talk about the recent announcement made by Playboy about how it will be no longer publishing nude photos. It seems like a huge change for one of the most well known brands in the world, although it may just be a sign of the times. I discuss the current state of the porn industry, how it is changing, and what it could ultimately mean for us as a culture. 


Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari - Amazon - 

Rising Strong by Brene Brown - Amazon - 

Playboy is Doing What?!? - Playboy - 

Nudes Are Old News at Playboy - New York Times - 

Sex Positive and Feminist Friendly Porn - Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health - 

Your Handy Guide to Feminist Porn - Bustle - 

- Sound clips from Game of Thrones courtesy of HBO 

2.11: Be Careful What You Wish For, Lest it be Tula (Story)

Last month, I invited a listener on to the show to share her stories about dating. At one point, she asked me if I had ever been asked out by a woman. I said that I had once, it was awful, and I would share the story on the show. Well, today is the day! 

In "Be Careful What You Wish For, Lest it be Tula," I am accosted by a girl and her friend in middle school who has a crush on me. The whole incident made me feel uncomfortable and embarrassed, and I learned a lot about myself in the process. I look forward to sharing more of that insight with you next week, when I further analyze the story. 

At the top of the show, I talk a little bit more about what Meghan Fox teaches us in the Transformers movie: That attractive women are not gifted everything in their lives by virtue of being attractive. By insinuating that someone only achieves something based on their looks is essentially a way for you to cope with your own feelings of jealousy or injustice. Don't fall into that trap! 


Rising Strong by Brené Brown - Amazon - 

2.10: Transformers

What does the movie Transformers teach us about masculinity? You might find that there's more in the film than meets the eye... 

In the movie, strong statements are made about what it means to be a teenager in America and what is important to these teenage boys. Namely cars and women.  We also see the pinnacle of manliness in soldiers in the army. It seems that, in order to be a true man, one must join the armed forces and fight for their country. 

Lastly, I take a look at Meghan Fox's character Mikaela. Fox is often criticized as being nothing more than a pretty face in the film, but I argue that perhaps there is a lot we are overlooking in this thinking. 

At the top of the show, I talk about my experience getting confronted by the trolls of GamerGate. Is GamerGate a terrorist organization? Or just a group of guys fighting for more ethical journalism? I share my understanding of the situation. 


- WTF is Wrong with Video Games? - Polygon - 

- Movie dialogue and sound clips from Transformers courtesy of DreamWorks Pictures and Paramount Pictures