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2.05: Q&A - Why Do Men Hate Feminists?

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In this episode, I'm doing a new segment where I take the time to answer some of your pressing questions about masculinity. Be sure to send me an email or leave me a voicemail to have your questions featured on the next Q&A episode. 

The questions I answer this episode where inspired by the workshop I led last week about present day masculinity. They include "Why is Feminism a dirty word?" "Why do Feminists hate Men's Rights Activists?" and "How do you respond to Feminists who try to shut down your arguments?" 

Additionally, I take some time to talk about the recent addition of a woman to the League of Legends Championship Series. I apologise in advance for geeking out about League of Legends again, but I feel it is a milestone worth noting. 

Any questions about the topics I bring up in this episode? Questions about Men's Rights Activism? Questions about Feminism? Questions about Remilia or the Renegades League of Legends team? Or just questions about masculinity in general? Leave me a comment or send an email, and I might share my answer on the podcast. 

REFERENCES 

The League Of Legends Championship Series Has Its First Woman Player - Kotaku - http://bit.ly/1hInrLR 

Remilia's post-win statement - Reddit - http://bit.ly/1hInw1U 

Why Are You So Angry? by Innuendo Studios - YouTube - http://bit.ly/1JFPvoY 

2.04: The Dating Lottery

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Mansplaining with Street Saint 

In this episode, I discuss dating and give some tips for how to improve your chances of finding a compatible partner (especially for Nice Guys). Nice Guys, or more shy and introverted men, tend to struggle with dating especially since they are expected to take charge when they tend to avoid doing so in almost every other aspect of their lives. 

Unfortunately, since we can't change our whole society's biases on gender roles immediately, I offer some tips to help you get what you want out of relationships. I compare dating to a lottery where your goal is to spend as little money as possible in order to gain the largest payout. 

In the dating lottery, the lottery tickets are the people you want to date. The money you spend is your own psychological, emotional, and financial investment. And the payoff is intimacy, love, and sex. 

I list 3 options for making this dating lottery less stressful and more worthwhile: 

A. Improve your odds of winning 

B. Spend less resources 

C. Give up gambling 

In the podcast I talk through each option and how you might use them to better your quality of life. It is up to you to determine what combination of these three options you need. 

Let me know in the comments below if you found this breakdown helpful and what options you will use (A, B, and/or C) to improve your dating life. 

Prior to my "mansplaination," I talk about "Rowdy" Ronda Rousey's impressive MMA fighting record as well as her rivalry with Floyd Mayweather. I pose the question of why we still think it's important to segregate male and female sports. 

REFERENCES 

Ronda Rousey profile - ESPN - http://es.pn/1LePjkd 

Sadly Mayweather beats domestic abuse history, too - Houston Chronicle - http://bit.ly/1LePlZm 

Floyd Mayweather Has A Cowardly Response To Ronda Rousey's Domestic Violence Dig - Huffington Post - http://huff.to/1LePxaZ 

Ronda Rousey: I can beat Floyd Mayweather in ‘no rules’ fight - MSNBC - http://on.msnbc.com/1LePDPJ 

2.03: My Romantic Panic Attack (Discussion)

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Continuing from the previous episode, I discuss Lindsey - My Romantic Panic Attack and how the events impacted my life. 

First off, I talk a bit about consent and how our society tends to overlook it. Consent is vitally important for relationships to work well, but we tend to instead favor subtlety and mystery. Without an open line of communication between partners, relationships are at risk of falling apart. In the worst cases, relationships can become either physically or emotionally abusive. Are you doing your part to ensure you are using consent in your relationships? 

In the story discussion I detail what lead up to me having my breakdown over Lindsey. I learned that I had been using Lindsey as a means to get over my own personal demons instead of seeing her as relationship partner. I also talk about how the lack of communication between Lindsey and I caused us to think of our relationship two different ways. Finally, I discuss how my attempts at masculinity and my understanding of what it means to be a man helped to bring about my ultimate panic attack. 

Have you suffered any moderate to severe emotional trauma due to a relationship? How did you cope with it? Let me know in the comment section below. 

Remember if you feel you are suffering from mental illness, I highly recommend finding a therapist, counselor, or good friend you can speak candidly with. Doing so is what helped me through my issues. 

REFERENCES 

- Movie dialogue and sound clips from The Perks of Being a Wallflower courtesy of Summit Entertainment. 

2.02: My Romantic Panic Attack (Story)

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This week I share a story about an especially traumatic relationship I had when I was in college. From now on, story time is going to be a little different on Romeo And.... Previously, I would share a story and then follow it up with my analysis. I'll still be doing that, but now you all have more of a chance to chime in with your own feedback. 

Here's how it's going to work. I'll tell the story one week and then the following week I'll provide my analysis. This way you can share your thoughts and ideas with me here, and I'll have a chance to incorporate your input in my discussion the following week. 

So if you haven't already, listen to the story and be sure to send me all of your feedback. You can also read the text version of the story on my site (stsaint.com/podcast). 

Additionally this episode I talk a little about Elliot Rodger. Rodger is notorious for the Isla Vista killings in 2014 when he shot and killed 6 in a murder spree. Elliot Rodger is the worst kind of "Nice Guy." He certainly wasn't a "nice" guy in the sense that he was a good person (him being a murderer). But he was a guy who devoted himself to making women happy, yet failed to get into a relationship. This is what defines the Nice Guy lifestyle. 

Elliot Rodger's story saddens me because his breakdown and subsequent killing spree was completely avoidable. In fact, I believe that Rodger (though a bit socially awkward) could have been a decent, upstanding citizen. Unfortunately, he was convinced that men and women are and should act a certain way and this false sense of reality drove him insane. It drove him to the point that he sought revenge for being lied to. If we do better to educate our boys (and girls) as I so tirelessly advocate for us to do, we can prevent these types of mental breakdowns from happening. 

I know this in my heart because I suffered from the same kind of breakdown. Several times. However, I share my worst one in this podcast "My Romantic Panic Attack." 

REFERENCES 

Do Schools Kill Creativity? TED Talk by Sir Ken Robinson - http://bit.ly/1L0B59l 

Elliot Rodger Channel on YouTube - http://bit.ly/1L0Bp7L 

My Twisted World by Elliot Rodger - http://bit.ly/1L0BCYA 

2014 Isla Vista Killings on Wikipedia - http://bit.ly/1L0BHvo 

2.01: The 40 Year Old Virgin

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Welcome back, bros! It's only been a month, but I've already missed you all! 

Welcome to the second season of Romeo And...! I have a lot of exciting plans for this season as well as the seasons going forward; the first of which, and most exciting of all, is that Romeo And... is now a WEEKLY podcast! Same great content, but now every week! 

The first episode of the new season is a movie review of The 40 Year Old Virgin. I talk about how one becomes a 40-year-old virgin and what is supposedly "wrong" with a person who is unable to have sex. I also talk about the methods used to lose one's virginity and how we as a society condition people to approach the dating world. Finally, I discuss the problems these lines of thinking cause and how men are doomed to fail when it comes to interacting with women. 

Have you felt any pressure to lose your virginity? If so, what did you do about it? What methods did you consider/use to have your first sexual experience? Let me know in the comments, or send me an email. 

REFERENCES 

- Movie dialogue and sound clips from The 40-Year-Old Virgin courtesy of Universal Pictures