In this episode, I critique the romantic comedy Crazy, Stupid, Love. The film drew a significant audience due to its all-star cast including Steve Carell, Ryan Gosling, Emma Stone, Julianne Moore, and Kevin Bacon. And though it is hilariously funny, it sends some troubling messages about masculinity and dating.
I also discuss the problem of sexist dating advice that is often offered to men. Female dating coaches especially tell men to simply "be confident" or "interesting" or "unique" when they approach women. But women never feel the pressure that comes from the approach. Until women are socially approved to approach men, they have to acknowledge the privilege they gain from our patriarchal society.
Crazy, Stupid, Love illustrates some of the problems that arise from this pressure on men to be initiators. Teenage boy are especially guilty of nagging girls to the point of harassment because they are taught to "never give up." Especially when it comes to the idea of a "soulmate." The moral of the movie could be summed up as "never give up on your soulmate," but there are so many issues with this line of thinking.
Lastly, I talk about what it means for a guy to be a "loser." Essentially, a loser is a guy who lacks social adeptness. Once again, to be an introverted man is an oxymoron in our culture. And here is just one more piece of popular media that reinforces the idea.
What is your take on the film? Have you ever used an over-the-top method to try to win over a crush? Did it work? Let me know in the comments below.
- Crazy, Stupid, Love movie dialogue and sound clips courtesy of Warner Bros. Pictures - http://bit.ly/1HrFHOB
In this episode, I reflect on my middle school years and "the (other) one that got away." The story mainly focuses on middle school in general and how terrible an experience it often is, but I also talk about another crush I had and how I (once again) failed to do the right things.
In the beginning of the episode, I talk about the Baltimore riots going on right now and I share another personal story about a run-in with the law. If you didn't already know, people are gathering in Baltimore, Maryland to protest the police killing another unarmed black American. It sucks that race is still an issue we have to tackle, but it hurts us even more if we pretend that it isn't a factor.
If racism no longer existed and it wasn't a factor we have to pay attention to, than my life would not have been any different than my white friends' I grew up with. But because my skin is brown, I had to make certain decisions and face certain inequalities that my white friends would never even have to consider. That's what these protests are about. And if you don't know about them, I urge you to educate yourself. Just by opening your eyes to these issues, you can bring us as a nation a step in the right direction.
Following both stories, I offer my two cents and analyze the major events, but I'd like to hear from you. What is your opinion on race in America? Do you feel that the police are simply doing their jobs in the recent events in the news? Also, what was your experience going through middle school in America? Do you think there are improvements that can be made to our current education system? Let me know in the comments below.