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1.02: Naomi - Elementary School Romance (pt. 1)

In this episode I share a true story I wrote in high school during the 90s. The story centers around my first crush. I was in elementary school, and I was too shy to tell her how I felt.

Ultimately, the events that took place had a significant impact on my life and the way I viewed relationships and dating. Much of the actions I took were informed by what I had learned from the media as a child about what being a man means. In the end, I was left heartbroken and embarrassed and had no idea what I had done wrong.

The full story can be found here.

Following the story, I discuss why men are often intimidated by women, and what implications this has on behavior. I discuss the media and how it can impact people’s (especially children’s) ideas about gender dynamics. Finally, I talk about how gender equality can improve how both men and women see each other and themselves.  


Quiet by Susan Cain  

- Joker dialogue from The Dark Knight courtesy of Legendary Pictures, DC Comics, and Syncopy  

1.01: The Amazing Spider-Man 2

The very first episode of my new Romeo And... podcast! The podcast will discuss the influence of "manliness" in our culture, what it means to "be a man," and why the insistence of being manly is ruining our youth. I talk about the media, specifically popular movies, as well as share personal stories of men and relationships and discuss the effects "manliness" has in each situation. 

In this episode of Romeo And... I talk about the blockbuster film The Amazing Spider-Man 2. I talk about how men are taught and expected to be "protectors," and how being a protector or bodyguard is not the same as loving someone. Peter Parker (Spider-Man) becomes Gwen Stacy's protector, body guard, and stalker, but he fails at being her boyfriend. 

I discuss women in the film from a feminist perspective. How, even when the female characters are portrayed as strong and independent, they ultimately still further the stereotypes that women are dependent on men. The women in the film try to be strong, but still end up being there just to further the men's stories. 

I also talk briefly about fatherhood and how good fathers are often absent in their children's lives in the media (especially in superhero stories). Even when a father abandons his child for supposedly just reasons, it still denies us the opportunity to see good male role models raising their children. 

Lastly, I discuss the stereotype of the castrated or emasculated man. When men do not show characteristics of manliness (ie. bravery, strength, independence, charisma, etc.), they are manipulated, abused, and degraded. They must also be rescued by other men who do demonstrate these characteristics. 


The Myth of Male Power - Dr. Warren Ferrell 

Women in Refrigerators (Tropes vs. Women) - Feminist Frequency 

- Movie dialogue and sound clips from The Amazing Spider-Man 2 courtesy of Sony Pictures Entertainment and Marvel Entertainment